Comments on: Parents might split up over money?

By: mark

mark — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 00:29:55 +0000

Your Mom is entitled to defend herself. You are entitled to come to the defense of another person if you see them attacked. Just dont let it get out of contol.

It will be your word against his for the police report and he could claim that you attacked him .

The easiest prperty settlement in a divorce would be to each take one house and make an adjustment so that they value obtained by each is equal. Using market value and amount oweing on the mortgage.

A divorce sounds like a good idea, and her divorce lawyer should ask for an immediate injunction against using existing assets to fund further debt.

By: lnfinitelylnteresting

lnfinitelylnteresting — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 00:29:55 +0000

If you are afraid of physical violence it sounds like an intervention with a professional might be a better idea for your family. Playing the stock market can be a form of a gambling addiction and it can require professional help. There is a major problem if your Dad is hiding money. It’s dishonest and unfair. If things do go down tonight you need to be prepared to call 911 and not take matters into your own hands. If your father wants to keep his family together he will have to be open to getting some much needed professional help. Some employers even offer free counseling sessions via the company insurance. Just remember this is something that you can’t control and you can’t let it stress you out. You should be focusing on school and being 17, not all this drama.

By: Crazymomo

Crazymomo — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 00:29:55 +0000

If any physical fighting starts you need to call the police. Don’t try beating up your dad, because one of you could end up hurt. Of course you need to protect your mother, but call the police first.

By: werewolfhooker

werewolfhooker — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 00:29:55 +0000

I am so sorry. You are a good young man. Get the phone in hand and dial 911 if you need to. Can they set some rules in advance of the discussion? Here, if one of us starts going haywire, the discussion is off until we get our cool back.
Safety is first. You dial 911 before you jump in to protect mom. Then you get her out of there. You do not stand toe-to-toe with dad and battle this out. Leaving is best if you can. If not, get the cops there and throw him in jail if he lays a hand on anyone.

I am sorry for this horror and sorry your dad lost his damn mind. I think you and your mom need to protect yourselves from his financial disasters as much as possible. You can love him without letting him wreck everything.

If there are guns in the house, get them out now. Get keys in the car ignition or close at hand.

I wish you the best. Hang in there.

By: mamabear

mamabear — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 00:29:55 +0000

You can help your mom by being there when she talks to him. Don’t hit him, just pick up the phone and call the police. Let them handle him. It’s better if they divorce. Your mom is lucky to have such a mature and responsible daughter. Good luck.

By: Monider

Monider — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 00:29:55 +0000

Call the police, then defend your Mom by getting her out of the house. Money is not the only issue here – your mother has lost trust in your father. Good luck..